What is Shuttle Mediation and is it right for us?

Mediation should be the first option for all couples going through a separation. Often people will say that litigation is the only option for those couples with a history of abuse, narcissism, or other high conflict relations.

However, mediation does offer certain techniques that can actually help those couples above. At Family Circle Mediation, we offer virtual “shuttle mediation” to those high conflict or abuse situations. Virtual shuttle mediation is where the couple never have to see or speak directly to one another. The mediator goes back and forth between the virtual “rooms” to negotiate a settlement. This enables each person to ensure they feel safe, will not be triggered by the other person’s comments/presence, and to balance out any power struggle between the couple. Additionally, if required each person can have their attorney present with them during the session for added security and comfort.

Family Circle Mediation offers shuttle mediation to some couples who may have difficultly with typical mediation. Shuttle mediation can be started and stopped at any point of the mediation sessions. For some, typical virtual face-to-face mediation sessions become too stressful or non-effective—someone is unable to stand up for themselves or is being bullied. At that point, at the request of one person or by the request of the mediator, we can switch to shuttle mediation. Other times, we can start with shuttle mediation, and the process of mediation provides one party the courage to directly face the other party in negotiations and we switch to typical mediation.

I have found that mediation can often help those on the receiving end of abuse or high conflict to take the first steps of self-determination and the courage to take control of the next phase of their life.  Particularly if there are children involved, and a shared parenting schedule is planned – mediation offers the first chance of learning to co-parent effectively and to reduce conflict for the benefit of the children.

Shuttle Mediation offers clients an alternative to typical mediation, without forcing these couples to go into litigation which can heighten tensions, delay resolution, and cause more financial insecurity.

If shuttle mediation sounds like a good fit for you and your family, contact Family Circle Mediation to set up a consult to discuss the option.